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Afternoon and High Tea

Tea and Tea Etiquette

Only two meals were served per day during the nineteenth century, breakfast in the morning and dinner at 8 pm. The duchess of Bedford was the first to take afternoon tea around 4 p.m. to stave off hunger pangs.

During these first "teas," a small amount of food was served. The menu grew as tea became more popular. Although not as popular as it once was, tea is again growing in popularity as people rediscover its recouperative properties.

Afternoon Tea Service

Tea is usually served from a table to make service easier. If a single table is too small, more than one table may be used: one for tea equipment, one for coffee, and yet another for pasteries and sandwiches.

formal tea

Formal teas are elegant and require significant preparation.

Guests serve themselves from an array of pasteries, mints, finger sandwiches, assorted nuts, pasteries and chocolates.

The best silver and porcelain are used.

Formal teas are normally held at 4:00 pm.

Curtains may be drawn and candles lit.

The hostess pours tea for her guests.

Tea plates are generally not provided if a small amount of finger food is provided which can be placed on a tea saucer. Plates may be used, however, if a more extensive menu is served.

At a formal tea, the table hold two silver services at opposite sides of the table. One for tea, and one for coffee. The following items are usually found at the table:

Hot-water kettel and teapot spouts should face the pourer. Tea leaves are lifted with the caddy spoon from the tea caddy to the teapot. Boiled water is poured from the hot water kettle into the teapot. The tea is allowed to steep for three (3) to five (5) minutes or until the infusion is strong. Weak tea is made by pouring a small amount of strong tea into the cup and diluting it with hot water. Lemon, milk, or sugar are added as requested.

The formal coffee service features a tray, a coffeepot with an alcohol burner to keep the beverage hot, a sugar bowl with sugar cubes, sugar tongs, and a creamer filled with cream.

informal tea

Informal tea is usually held between two (2) and three (3) pm. The menu is fairly light comprising of pastries, finger sandwiches, assorted nuts, and candy.

The tea is served in a comfortable setting (patio, living room,) from any flat surface.

High Tea

High tea is usually served around 5:00 PM. The menu is extensive, like that of canap├ęs hors d'oeuvres at a cocktail party. All other aspects of high tea are the same as afternoon tea.


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